The Reality of Real Men
A healthy fear of my life from my father did wonders for six children. But that doesn’t work when you trying to be your kid’s “friend” and you trying to give them everything you didn’t have and spoiling them in the process. By the time you realize what you have done, you have run the “real man” out of your life and your kids have been suspended and in custody more times than you can count.
Understanding The Emotional Creature Within
In an emotional battle, no one ever wins. The problem with being drunk with emotion is you seldom can recall what you actually said and how you said it. You only hear what you meant to say in your head and you don’t understand why someone is responding like you said something wrong.
Turn The Page
Sometimes the hardest part of being secure with who you are is knowing that, despite the fact that you never stop learning, there are some things you already know better than to ever want to live through again.
Fatherhood Stories: Too Pretty
Not one for wanting to settle for eating prepackaged food, I learned to cook. I experimented with all the things I liked that she used to cook and I took every opportunity to watch my grandmother who I also visited each weekend with my father.
It’s Never Too Late
That is why my heart is always there for a hood mama struggling to do right. I step in because that is what my father did even though he wasn’t my father and they were divorced. I give because even though we had little to nothing ourselves, my mother never turned a hungry mouth away from our table.
A LETTER: Word to Tha Sistahs
You should stop being so desperate that you are willing to accept getting into situations where you don’t want to know the truth. I just don’t think you women are that stupid. But I do think some of you are delusional enough to believe you can give a man your body and your money and think that is enough to make him change the situation he in and all you end up doing is hurting yourself because even if he do leave one situation for you, he already showed you what kind of man he is.
Daddy Can You See Me
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN DADDY CAN YOU SEE ME by Neo Blaqness Daddy can you see me I know I’m just a girl I may not be the boy you wanted but to me you are my world even though you’ve never seen me I’m told it’s you that’s in my eyes and the silly way I laugh I wonder...Ready Eyes
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN READY EYES – by Neo Blaqness It’s just something about her eyes though I have never seen a word spoken from her lips I cannot deny the things I’ve heard Coming from her spirit the countenance that time has chiseled on her heart...Age Is So Much MORE Than a Number
A lot of young people go for older because they are not yet ready to take full responsibility for their lives. And a lot of older go for younger because they don’t want an equal who can hold them accountable as an adult.
Roping The Moon
You shouldn’t have to convince anyone to be in a relationship with you. Just be yourself. Know yourself. Trust yourself. And you will draw to you those who are meant to walk this life with you.
In-Digestion
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN IN-DIGESTION by Neo Blaqness Sometimes slow digestion will cause you to question what you been eatin and when Don’t mistake contemplation for constipation and worry about what’s not coming out of the other end or equate that because...Avoid Dating These Triplets
I make it a point to always eat before I go grocery shopping. A full stomach helps you to think more clearly about the money you are about to spend. In that same mindset, I have learned that, if you truly are looking for a long term relationship, there are three types of people to stay away from: Horny, Lonely, and Needy.
The Doing of Love
Today it seems we strive to be so much in love with ourselves that we drive everywhere with our face in the mirror complaining that someone needs to fix the bumpy road and clueless that those bumps are actually the people we are running over.
Beware The Dark Angels Among Us
There is a scripture that essentially says that you never know when you might be entertaining angels unaware. Here’s a wake up call people. That does include FALLEN angels…
Spiritual First Responders
I have learned that as much as you may want to dive right in, love can’t always be a full embrace. Sometimes it has to settle for being a life ring
TRAVELIN SHOES (a modern spiritual)
A modern negro Spiritual.
HAPPINESS WAS…
IN HONOR OF THIS PAST FATHER’S DAY I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH YOU A FEW THOUGHTS. THERE ARE NO PERFECT PEOPLE THEREFORE THERE ARE NO PERFECT PARENTS. BUT FOR THOSE OF US WHO HAD THE BENEFIT OF A FATHER, I THINK WE NEED TO SHARE THOSE EXPERIENCES. THIS POST IS FROM MY MEMORIES OF CHILDHOOD
NEO’S TOP 25 LIFE EXPERIENCES
NEO’S TOP 25 LIFE EXPERIENCES THAT WILL MAKE US LIKELY TO GET ALONG IF WE HAVE THEM IN COMMON: 1. If you lived any part of life without a phone. 2. If you lived any part of life without a car. 3. If you ever had to walk home or ride the bus with groceries. 4. If...The Potter’s Rembrandt- Yolantha Harrison Pace
I thought of my auntie today as I completed the edit of Yolantha Harrison-Pace’s new book HAITI: The Aftershocks of Hope. For the first time since losing my dear auntie, I have been utterly moved by the passionate obedience of a woman to the spirit of God within her.
What’s In a Name?
It seemed to me that unless you were straight off the boat and black, any attempt at a self-identity apart from what was bred into you was ridiculed and seen as a threat with even black families getting upset when their sons and daughters dropped their white “Christian” name when joining the Nation of Islam or radio hosts like Rush Limbaugh clowned Kwanzaa as a “made up holiday” as though the descendants of former slaves have no right to the dignity of restoring their own heritage as best they can.
Post Mortem
Years ago, as a very young man much too old for his time, I was dating a neighborhood girl who literally had sex on the brain. Every single time we were around each other, that is what she wanted. Looking back, perhaps that is how she was taught she needed to be in...Creative Minds
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN CREATIVE MINDS by Neo Blaqness I spent the night inside of you our hearts were intertwined in rhythmic pulse as our minds clenched and held each other tight penetrating with each thought I thrusted to your soul denied me not you opened up and...READY, SET, GO-D
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN READY, SET, GO-D by Neo Blaqness I remember One time I told God “Nope I ain’t gonna do it” and I heard him laugh hard saying “child there ain’t nothing to it” and it kinda put me off “Well that’s...Glass Darkly
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN GLASS DARKLY -by Neo Blaqness Today I pause That I might thank God For the keepers Of my heart You precious few Without whom My life would be Quite dark The light you share Tho you not dare To think it to be so grand Casts the Son Upon each...Dealing With Christians Who Have Pockets Full of Rocks
The sword of truth is not a weapon meant to go out and champion God. God needs no champions. He needs the FAITHFUL.
Legend of a Pen Pal Pervert
I leaped and I danced and I hugged it and said “It’s from my girlfriend and she loves me, she loves me, she loves me,” as I ran to my room to open the letter just knowing I had won her over with all my big words and even a little bit of Shakespeare.
Handle with Care
When yours are the only arms protecting a fragile spirit, even when others appreciate what you have done, nobody notices what you had to absorb on behalf of that person.
One Moment In Christ
All in a single instant, I felt the tension in the air. The group of older black males I was fronting for almost lost their steps. The camera crews filming the show zoomed in. I saw the nervous glint of the show producer. Everyone was waiting. Waiting for what I was going to do.
Fatherhod Stories: Ya Doggy Yah
At this point I am wheezing and sucking for air. By the next corner I am wondering if I will ever see my son again. The cold was freezing my lungs and everything looked white but I kept running toward the laughter of this child who is having the time of his life. As they turn the final corner ahead of me I am praying that they stopped.
Fatherhood Stories: Of Sons and Gods
No longer afraid, the little bugger raised an eyebrow. He learned that from watching Buzz Lightyear and had perfected it. Then in a very irritated tone said, “but I need to sleep.” Well, me not thinking I simply said, “then I guess that is between you and God” as I tucked him in and left the room.
When You Finally Get It
When life clicks for you, and you finally get it, and understand who you need to be, just be you, and do you without apology.
You Can’t Delete The Truth
With the Internet and digital cameras and camera phones the reputation you get right now will follow you til you die and then still live on with your kids and grandkids.
Fishin
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN FISHIN -by Neo Blaqness Have you ever tried to breathe with a heart so broken that you start to wheeze before a single word is even spoken Like someone done literally reached in and did with their bare hands pulled out that rib right through the...Glimmer
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN GLIMMER by Neo Blaqness There is a joy I try to live by and that I endeavor to share with every soul I have been blessed to encounter; To try to be at least that one human being to understand the reasons for the absence of joy in the life of...Unworthy
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN UNWORTHY -by Neo Blaqness How do you answer a woman who feels unworthy who says “If you knew the truth about me I know you’d desert me” I raise the question because some of you one day will meet a man not trying to have his way...Closed
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN CLOSED by Neo Blaqness Closed hearts Closed eyes Closed ears Closed minds Cost souls Cost lives Leaves holes in the wisdom of timeThe Fallen
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN THE FALLEN -by Neo Blaqness If I can’t be true to me I can’t be true to you The truth is I am just what you see but so are the things you do You say don’t judge a book by its cover but what’s a brutha sposed to think...Faith Walk
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN FAITH WALK by Neo Blaqness walk by faith not by sight cuz when your spirit tells you something’s not right yet you follow your eyes into the night thinking the path to Heaven is between some thighs and find the devil in disguise a million...Atlas
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN ATLAS by Neo Blaqness Sometimes a friend will lift you up not because he is stronger, but because his feet can touch the bottom and he can hold his breath longer. For when your lungs are full of air you aren’t quite as heavy then, consider...Pontius People
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN PONTIUS PEOPLE -by Neo Blaqness Inhale Exhale Pass Fail Go to jail Please us or Jesus or If you must Fade to dust Walk alone or ride Our bus Chompin Stompin Don’t forget your offerin Kneel down to our sound and receive your thorny crown...What Then
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN WHAT THEN -by Neo Blaqness To you for whom some things are a sin let it be a sin for you but in a free society you cannot legislate YOUR truth you cannot simply have your way because you can’t stand the sight of same sex people in...Corpses
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN CORPSES by Neo Blaqness There is a crime that has people doing time It’s called accessory after the fact When a person’s decision to make an omission of things that should have been said is as damaging as the crime itself even though...Waking Up to Yesterday
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN WAKING UP TO YESTERDAY -by Neo Blaqness This morning for some reason I slept in resting past the sounds of the birds singing welcoming the break of dawn Something I never do without two arms around me or a breath upon my chest or legs intertwined...Prognosis
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN PROGNOSIS – by Neo Blaqness How do you heal a wound Without knowing where it hurts When all you feel Is a something You wish would go away Like that sound in the night You can’t locate And won’t let you sleep Or that itch That always seems...Unspoken
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN UNSPOKEN – by Neo Blaqness You knew From the moment The air left your lungs Joined by the tone of Your voice box And the form of your lips That your mind was Too late To stop what your spirit Had warned you about All along Gasping As if...The Other Pillow
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN THE OTHER PILLOW ~By Neo Blaqness Tonight I shared my bed with the other pillow where she once rested her head where our eyes would slowly meet and our lips would gently greet before drifting off to sleep knowing that my eyes would open moments...Abundantly
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN ABUNDANTLY ~by Neo Blaqness~ A life without true love is like a smile that no one sees warmth without a breeze a sky without a sea of stars to gaze upon and dream a child without laughter no hope of happy ever after just existing missing out...Irreparable
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN IRREPARABLE by Neo Blaqness How many times can you climb to the top of Heart’s Hill with all your might and all your will holding on for dear life to another until they send you head over heals tumbling down covered over by the load of...For No Good Reason
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN FOR NO GOOD REASON -Neo Blaqness Someone who makes you smile for no good reason Is like someone who can make you eat when you ain’t even hungry There’s just something in the seasoning Like salt on a sweet apple somehow pulls out the...Brown Girl
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN BROWN GIRL -by Neo Blaqness Brown girl Brown girl I wanted you to be my world So I worked hard I wanted to be free but instead you wanted no part of me Brown girl Brown girl why it is that back in the day bruthas like me got clowned as gay for...Original Black Girl
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN ORIGINAL BLACK GIRL -by Neo Blaqness Glistening in the midst of her chocolate silhouette is a smile that brightens the beauty of her soul a brownness that mother earth made to behold Lips that bubble at the joy of a kiss Hips that move to the...Ignant
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN IGNANT -by Neo Blaqness Hav u eva wasted ur tym tryin ta esplane yoself ta sumbody ignant? and no matta wut u say day ignant ass only no one thang and dat is wut day got on day mines dat dey wont frum u and day ignant ass just be blind to da...Revenge of Da Munchkins
So I plan this surprise evening to take a friend’s kid skating and to laser tag- yeah I know it was a school night but it’s like dirt cheap to go on Tuesdays. Of course this “kid” is almost taller than me and skeered to skate so I had to have...Dandelion Love
So many try to love like the magic of dandelion wish- impatient to wait for the winds, instead blowing our seeds across barren landscapes hoping that love will take root in a place where it is out of season.
Neo’s Interview On DrV Presents…..MASTERPIECES
Neo Blaqness is a great guest and interview for your radio show. Here is one where he shares about one of his books along with some life lessons for the listening audience.
When Brothers Meet
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN WHEN BROTHERS MEET ~By Neo Blaqness~ Today I met my brother, as I was walking across the street Tis true we share no mother but that’s not how it is when brothers meet In family skin is how we begin and truly recognize Be that of wealth or...Life Lessons from a Blues Legend
JACKSON, MISSISSIPPI (TBP) – When you mention the name Bobby Rush to people, many immediately think of the Congressman from Illinois who co-founded the Illinois chapter of the Black Panthers in 1968. They don’t think about the blues man born in Louisiana...The Prodigal Purpose of Anger
Neo Blaqness is known for his controversial views on organized religion because he is not a big fan of the church and does not shy away from criticizing many religious traditions. However, on rare special occasions, we are afforded a glimpse of his deep theological roots as is the case with a recent sermon upon the passing of a brother to someone near and dear to him.
Today
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN TODAY by Neo Blaqness Today when you looked at me your eyes smiled with the innocence of a girl who had never known sadness Your face glowed like a child given a long awaited gift You tilted your head and blushed like a teenager whose first love...This Walk
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN THIS WALK by Neo Blaqness I already know mine is not an easy heart to hold but I make no apology for being me I used to try to see eye to eye to walk by sight that wasn’t mine but I might as well been blind running into things that you...Just Because
Just because someone don’t love you the way you want them to don’t make you unloved Just because everybody keeps asking you for your number don’t make you really wanted Just because somebody takes care of your bills don’t make you their only...The Ride
I thought you were my friend you made me think again I wanted to believe you really cared but you didn’t have to go there I know that I was wrong I thought that I was strong enough and I know I wasn’t fair but you didn’t have to go there You...Success and Luck
Success is usually the opportunities we take for ourselves. Luck is the opportunities that see us coming. I would rather be successful than lucky. At least I know the motive behind the opportunity.
Wifey Types
WIFEY TYPES by Neo Blaqness I look you you look at me we each see possibilities potential that we could be more than friends on a list through richer or poorer pronounce thee then kiss the only thing I can’t get past is seeing your heart through all that ass you...The Music Never Ends
In a few days, I turn 45. I have been fortunate to have the music of love serenade my life quite a few times. And each time it has come and gone I have reflected upon this song.
Nothing
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN NOTHING by Neo Blaqness Have you ever noticed how quickly people get caught up when you have nothing to say like somehow your silence represents judgement of not only the situation but of who they are as a person all because you have chosen to...THANKS NEO: Response not Needed or Necessary – Just Listen
God led you to me at the appropriate time and God led you away from me at the right time so I wouldn’t become totally dependent on you which I could feel was beginning to happen. I appreciate you, and will always love your mind. You have an awesome (one of a kind) brilliant mind. Thank you for having briefly shared it with me. I am a much better and stronger person for God having worked through you to reach me because you forced me to listen.
Between
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN BETWEEN by Neo Blaqness In the silence between each breath I speak your name between each blink I see your face when my lips part I feel your kiss between each second It’s you I miss between each beat my heart does pause to hear its echo in...While You Were Sleeping
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN WHILE YOU WERE SLEEPING by Neo Blaqness Before the dawn of each day when your face is at rest I gaze upon my love looking her best no makeup no glamour no rush to impress at peace in the skin God made you in perfection at last til you open your...The Woman for Me
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN THE WOMAN FOR ME by Neo Blaqness I have never been into the wifey types A woman who just gives up her life to a man and bonds herself to his every wish as though she exists for his every command I always thought there’s got to be something better...The Man Behind Lincoln’s Challenge
Standing at the granite memorial and amongst the bronze plates that adorn the trees at the small memorial garden, Peter Thomas can tell you about every name listed. It is a quality that seems to permeate veterans of the Vietnam Era who had been denied honor for so long by the politics of war.
We’re Gonna Need a Bigger SeaBoat
And so for an African American, whether Christian or Muslim- opening a business is not as cut and dry as writing a business plan and dreaming of the riches to come. For those from families with ties back to slavery and the old south, a business is about a community, about a legacy, and about a promise.
From Freddie to Freedom
Khair never forgot the lessons of his early childhood and wanted to share those lessons with a people he believes have forgotten where they came from. His biography “From Freddie to Freedom” is not just about his life, but a look into the journey that many African Americans still struggle through today.
Impressions
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN IMPRESSIONS by Neo Blaqness Stop. Take a moment. Look at yourself. Now let me tell you what I see. It’s not your cleavage or your puckered lips or your ass raised in the air. It’s not your tongue stuck between your fingers or your...Thyckness
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN THYCKNESS by Neo Blaqness How can I put this delicately without you thinking I’m bein mean I know I said I like your thyckness but baby I’m concerned about the sickness this complacency we now have with obesity so much so we...Epiphany
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN EPIPHANY by Neo Blaqness There are many gods but one Creator. The fear of gods is the sustenance of ignorance. The worship of gods is the suppression of truth. The wisdom of gods is the perfecting of our faith. To walk with gods is the promise of...THANKS NEO: Note from an Angel Flying Too Close to The Ground
When you fight a friend over a principle, they don’t see the point, they only see you. When they run out of words to fight over, they are left only with echoes of what was said. And eventually, because words spoken and received emotionally imprint the deepest, they have no choice but to see them for what was truly said. And that is why it is better to be silent than to speak recklessly in anger.
Erbert Johnson and The Duality of Black Urkels
The events of his childhood would shape the man who would later come home to lead a bank that was established to help the very communities he saw on fire. You see, five year old Erbert Johnson made a promise to himself to somehow make things better when he grew up. And from a child’s heart to God’s ears, it was a promise he planned to keep.
The Path
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN THE PATH by Neo Blaqness Always choose to be who you are. until wisdom calls you to change Some are meant to walk with you far whilst others may think you strange But the biggest mistake that you can make is to change just so you can fit in...Eulogy
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN EULOGY by Neo Blaqness when this body dies I will return to to the place where my wisdom lies and add to it the lessons of past mistakes then embark again to make even more that someday I might know enough to be god with...A Home for Love
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN A HOME FOR LOVE by Neo Blaqness looking sexy might catch an eye but being humble will catch a heart a compliment might stroke an ego but does your presence stir a soul when you say something you speak to a mind when you are quiet a spirit listens...With Love
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN WITH LOVE by Neo Blaqness We had a love for all the wrong reasons you were looking for someone to believe in you for a change and not just complain about all of the things you never could be instead of the things you are And so everyday you awoke...A Rose for Sharon
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN A ROSE FOR SHARON by Neo Blaqness Before the winters of our discontent after the summer that we met I made the trek while you slept twenty miles just to uncover the snow that piled upon the windows of your car opened the door to leave a card and...After Glow
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN AFTERGLOW by Neo Blaqness Its been a while now perhaps even longer on my part Time never moved fast since you been on my heart maybe its because I never wanted it to I wanted each second to last a moment moments to last hours hours to be a...Only for Now
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN ONLY FOR NOW by Neo Blaqness I don’t know every answer Each day brings more questions Each experience new wisdom that redefines wut I thought I already knew So I am only as sure as I can be today tomorrow may show me another way like a...We All Have Our Reasons
There is a divine spirit within the brotherhood of man regardless of what name you want to give it. What this time of year should remind us of foremost is of the greatness of who we can truly become when we choose to love and to give selflessly.
When a Woman Gets Into a Man’s Shorts
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN WHEN A WOMAN GETS INTO A MAN’S SHORTS by Neo Blaqness Today I finally had the courage to open that drawer. The one I set aside for her to use whenever she would visit. Where she would leave the things that made it feel like home- knowing...A LETTER: Love Denied or Love In Denial
It sounds like you both need to have a heart to heart putting all your issues and fears on the table and then come up with a plan to face them together so that they are no longer obstacles to the future the two of you could so happily have. But you both have to be willing to do it.