by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Faith Matters, Letters |
I have learned that love must always be embraced with the wonder of a child; that the more freely and without fear two people are able to set aside past pains, that the walls between them fall flat and become the foundation of faith and truth upon which a home is built wherein an unfailing love is eternally warmed by the fire of spirit filled wisdom.
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
NEO, my husband tripping cuz me and my ex are really close. I mean we got kids together so I like to know wuts going on with him so I know the kids are cool when they go stay with him. I say he being jealous and unreasonable. Am I wrong? -BELINDA
by Neo Blaqness | Faith Matters |
Many of us, my black azz included, who say we waiting on a good person in our lives have met plenty of people who just happen to have messed up sides to them just like we all do. And so we act like tomorrow is promised and wait years for somebody who we feel is not going to be as much work when we ourselves can be just as much a handful.
by Neo Blaqness | Poetry, The Lonely Sleep |
PROMISE FREEby Neo Blaqness-I’m not looking for a forever love because we are only promised this day we know nothing of tomorrow no matter what we think for if you say you truly love me I accept that for today if you don’t live up to it tomorrow you...
by Neo Blaqness | Poetry, The Lonely Sleep |
FULL HOUSE by Neo Blaqness Do you ever wonder like I do had we met before I became me and you became you bound to the places our lives have brought us to and all the ups and downs that we have come through would there really be a chance for a me and you instead of...
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Faith Matters, Letters |
I have heard many women say and listened as they have been told to “wait on tha lawd” for a good man. But I think there is a lot of confusion as to what that really means. We are drawn to Bible stories of prophets and angels and people being told where to go and when. But that was then and this is now. Plus not everything man interprets as God is really God even if it is written in the book you call the Bible. God is not in the matchmaking business. God does not specifically choose to raise up or send a man to you. As much as it makes people feel good to want to believe that, you need to understand that God is not a respecter of persons no more than the rain or snow chooses not to fall on you when you forget your umbrella or your coat.
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
Just because we have a right to say or want something don’t always make it the wisest thing to say or do. At the same time there is nothing wrong with saying what you find attractive as long as you understand that the outward appearance does not define the character of the person inside. Beauty is not only in the eye of the beholder but is truly only skin deep while ugliness runs to the bone. The world will never truly be color blind, but you also can’t afford to be stuck on color stupid such that you overlook blessings standing right in front of you.
by Neo Blaqness | Poetry, The Lonely Sleep |
THE WALL by Neo Blaqness There is a crack in the wall between me and you If I press my face against it I can see right through and upon my cheek a kiss of grateful air that has found a place to move a yearning breeze squeezed between two hardened hearts of stone...
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
NEO why is it so hard to find a man who ain’t just full of lies? I mean they step at you like they got it all together and as soon as you close you find out they just fake?
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
NEO, I just feel like right now…I only have my heart and love to offer…am I wrong for putting my love life on hold until I get back up on my feet? He’s willing to stick by me but I feel inadequate. ..
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
NEO, my question is how do you stay with somebody you discover you really don’t love and don’t really love you after you meet someone you know is meant for you?
by Neo Blaqness | Brown Girl, Poetry |
U SCARED -by Neo Blaqness u scared I kno u scared cuz u ain’t neva been there u been wit lots of bruthas but they ain’t never take you there that’s why u scared I kno u scared cuz u thot ya azz was grown breakin hearts and necks but couldn’t...
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
I think that if someone is worth moving closer to then take the time to find a job and your own place and establish yourself there with the understanding that at the end of that year, you should be headed for marriage.
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
NEO’S TOP 10 THINGS I CAN’T STAND ABOUT BLACK MEN AND WOMEN 1. That black women don’t take control of their bodies and stop allowing themselves to be impregnated by men they already know have no track record of stability- relationship and otherwise. 2. That black men...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
NEO’S TOP 10 REASONS A WOMAN WILL STOP CALLING YOU BACK 1. Something you said kicked up feelings she isn’t quite ready to talk about or face. 2. She is afraid to tell you something she fears might run you away. 3. She already got what she wanted out of you...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
NEO’S TOP 10 REASONS A MAN WILL STOP CALLING YOU BACK 1. You wouldn’t have sex with him. 2. You was too quick to have sex with him. 3. He too busy having sex with somebody else. 4. You wouldn’t give him no money. 5. Some other chick giving him money....
by Neo Blaqness | Faith Matters |
Nobody expects perfection of anyone they meet. What most of us look for is balance- someone who comes to us and doesn’t take us off balance by the weight of their world.
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
I won’t lie. I got what I wanted. But I got a lot of lies too, a lot of baby mama drama and wifes calling my phone.
by Neo Blaqness | Personal, Reflections |
I understand exactly why so many black women have given up on black men because, based on my experience, I would have given up on black women except for these things
by Neo Blaqness | Personal, Reflections |
I have traveled a long way to finally being me. And I lost two women who married me who deserved to know that the direction of my life would outgrow what we would be capable of remaining. If I had known that, I would have never married them. But had I never married them, I would not be the man that those experiences have taught me to become.
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
I found one of your newspaper articles from a few years ago where you mentioned four areas that single people need to look at before getting into a relationship but now I can’t seem to locate it online again. I wanted to save those points. Can you share them again?
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
I have a friend who is n a situation with her x. She still loves him but yet he doesnt tell her how he feels. They break up over a txt, but yet he still contacts her.
by Neo Blaqness | Personal, Reflections |
When there is always somebody online who will lie to you and tell you that you are right just to get in your pants, the relationship in front of you doesn’t stand a chance. In the absence of real mothers and fathers, the conscience of relationships has now reached a the new low of whatever the friends list thinks.
by Neo Blaqness | Personal, Reflections |
In a few days, I turn 45. I have been fortunate to have the music of love serenade my life quite a few times. And each time it has come and gone I have reflected upon this song.
by Neo Blaqness | Brown Girl, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN NOTHING by Neo Blaqness Have you ever noticed how quickly people get caught up when you have nothing to say like somehow your silence represents judgement of not only the situation but of who they are as a person all because you have chosen to...
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN AFTERGLOW by Neo Blaqness Its been a while now perhaps even longer on my part Time never moved fast since you been on my heart maybe its because I never wanted it to I wanted each second to last a moment moments to last hours hours to be a...
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN EPILOGUE by Neo Blaqness If you died today and the only thing that mattered for your soul to be saved is that you truly loved someone what could you say that you once gave your heart but did you give your all did you play it safe did you leap or...
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN I CAN’T by Neo Blaqness I cant fight the ghosts of every man who eva dun you wrong I can’t fill the space of every place where you never felt like you belonged I cant bear the pain of every heart that turned against your own I cant...
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN NOT THIS TIME by Neo Blaqness There comes a time when someone must have the courage to say goodbye and admit to ones self as much as you tried tho no one is wrong something’s not right we can prolong it find all the reasons to fight on...
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN HAV U EVA by Neo Blaqness Have you ever wanted to believe so much that you deceive your mind into thinking you have touched something that really isn’t there Have you ever hoped beyond what’s real that you have made your heart start...
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN CHOICES by Neo Blaqness There are many reasons we let go sometimes our burdens are too heavy to expect another to hold or we lack the strength within our grasp to find the faith to simply ask someone dear to stand closer by our side focused only...
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN SOMETIMES by Neo Blaqness Sometimes I try to understand why Sometimes I just start to cry Sometimes I wish I could hold your hand Sometimes just hearing your name is more than I can stand Sometimes your voice still lives in my head Sometimes...
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Thanks Neo |
Neo, people might want to say you crazy but you been this deep the whole part of life I have known you. You always were the one to go head first into learning and then the first one to notice when something not quite right when everybody else wanted you to shut up. I’m glad you never shut up. I’m alive today because you never shut up.
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN MISSIN MY LISCIOUS by Neo Blaqness The swagga of your thickness the passion of your kisses that nappy doo that favored you oh how I miss my Liscious banana nut muffin recipe I only made so I could see you smile the way you looked at me whenever...
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
Are you being too picky? Who am I to say? We all have a right to say for ourselves what we require to have peace in our lives. Your sibling’s mates may drive you crazy but there is always someone out there who is made to love somebody , even them, and even you.
by Neo Blaqness | I Dream of You, Poetry |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN ii BooG by Neo Blaqness In case you ever wondered do I really still think of you of course I do even after all the clouds and storms we been through you see I am the kind who neva minded gettin soaked in the rain barefoot hopping puddles...
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters, Personal, Reflections |
More often than not, a lot of the material that makes it to this site and into my articles and books come from conversations with readers with whom I have become friends. Here is another one I thought I would share. FROM A READER: You’re the Man….My...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
Between semesters at college I needed a job so I answered an ad looking for a floater for a local bank.They sent us to teller training at their operations center where I was the only guy in the class. There was a girl in my class who took the bus to training but it...
by Neo Blaqness | Ask Neo, Letters |
Hey Neo Blaqness..I need to be blasted…I am trying hard to love someone that is so complex…It tests every fiber in me..I know that you are going to tell my dumb butt to move on…I know that…Trying to love someone that claims to love you back but...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
Have you ever stopped to ponder the negativity you receive from some when you admit that you are meeting or are chatting with a person you met online? Almost inevitably comes the warning of fakes, frauds, and axe murderers masquerading as decent people and the high...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
It is said that one of the definitions of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. If that is, indeed, true, then love must be the most common form of insanity. Not only do we seek it out no matter how many times we are...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
I have recently had the occasion to browse through some online profiles and have found the phrase repeating through quite a few as a tag line: “Never make someone a priority who views you as an option”- or something to that effect. On its face it does look...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN LEAVES AREN’T THE ONLY THINGS FALLING THIS TIME OF YEAR -by Neo Blaqness They say that spring is the time of year for love. But fall is the time of year I worry the most about my female friends in recovery. As someone who has done...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
CLICK BELOW TO LISTEN HAVE YOU TAKEN THIS CRUISE BEFORE by Neo Blaqness Imagine walking into your workplace and running into a brand ambassador for GWF Cruiselines. He or she was professional and described a great fantasy cruise with an undisclosed destination at a...
by Neo Blaqness | Observations, Reflections |
One of the most compelling old skool songs that I like to listen to comes from the Spinners, “Love Don’t Love Nobody”. Somehow we get the impression that love has an obligation to never hurt us or fail us- that simply because we feel it, that those feelings alone...
